In the early morning of December last year, a netizen posted a post on Douban. The netizen used the trajectory of her mother’s shopping cart to outline a woman’s life from birth to death.
From a bracelet for her children to a box of bread for her husband, she left all her care to her family when she was alive. And a windbreaker that she likes herself, the discount period is over, and she is not willing to buy it.
Finally, she bought herself a scarf that she liked very much, but it became a "witness" when she died.
The netizen repented in the post, "I didn’t find anything unusual until the day my mother committed suicide." After such a long period of insomnia, irritability and depression, she finally failed to survive menopause, and people around her didn’t know what she had experienced …
We regret the death of this netizen’s mother, but we must also see a fact:Most women have experienced an abnormality at some stage of their lives..
Xiao Jia (a pseudonym), a young man in Chongqing, experienced the process of her mother becoming depressed.
The year before last, Xiao Jia, who was away from home, went back to his hometown to attend his grandfather’s funeral. After seeing his mother, her callous and melancholy expression made Xiao Jia feel abnormal. Xiao Jia asked his mother what happened, and her mother told him that she didn’t sleep well during that time and woke up early every day. But Xiao Jia didn’t take it seriously,He thinks it is normal for middle-aged and elderly people to sleep less..
Two months later, my mother called him frequently, saying that she was often oppressed in the chest and panicked. Xiao Jia initially judged that her mother should be in menopause and will get better after a while. But as it turns out,My mother is not most people., but a few people.
In a later phone call, my mother told Xiao Jia,I am getting more and more flustered, and I can’t calm down for a moment., crying helplessly. Xiao Jia realized the seriousness and asked her mother to go to the city to see a doctor. Mother told him that she would go with her father, and she was afraid that she would do something stupid.
When Xiao Jia got home, she found that her mother not only lost weight, but also became more and more melancholy on her face.She kept talking and her body kept shaking.It seems that I can’t stop for a moment.
After examination, my mother’s health was normal, and finally she was diagnosed with moderate depression, mild anxiety and sleep apnea syndrome in the department of cardiology.
Every woman will encounter menopause, which is a normal physiological stage. According to the definition of WHO, women’s menopause can be divided into three stages: premenopause, perimenopausal period, late menopause,Perimenopausal period is usually called menopause..
Menopause is a natural aging process. When women are 40 years old, if there is obvious menstrual disorder, accompanied by abnormal hormone levels, it is a precursor to menopause. The menopausal depression refers to the depression that appears in the menopausal stage, which has both internal and external causes.
From the internal cause, due to the decline of ovarian function, the feedback to pituitary disappears, and the balance between hypothalamus, pituitary and ovary is broken, which is manifested in the increase of gonadotropin secretion, reaching 20-40 times the normal level. Endocrine changes lead to abnormal levels of β -endorphin and 5- hydroxytryptamine in the brain.Patients have mental and emotional disorders such as insomnia and emotional irritability..
The external factors are the extension of internal changes. Physical aging makes women’s pressure suddenly come, and their feelings, work and family are at the crossroads of life, which affects their mental health and eventually leads to depression.
Generally speaking,Depression, loss of pleasure, anxiety, nervousness, insomnia, physical discomfort, autonomic nervous disorder, etc., is a common manifestation of menopausal depression, these symptoms often last for a long time, obviously affecting work, life and various interpersonal relationships.
It should be pointed out that menopause is not equal to menopausal depression, which is a pathological reaction that needs to be diagnosed by a professional doctor, and then comprehensively evaluated according to the actual situation, and medication and psychotherapy are taken.
In life, how to determine whether your menopause is coming? In fact, menopause is a long-lasting process, and the body will have a series of reactions.
MenopausalEarly symptomsIt is a psychological symptom of menstrual disorder, hot flashes, night sweats, insomnia and other discomfort.
Midterm symptomsIt is an early persistence, and the hormone level in women continues to decline, which may lead to aggravation of symptoms, and some women will be targeted by menopausal depression. In addition, some women will appear.Physiological pathological symptomsFor example, frequent urination, urgency, stomach discomfort, headache, backache, joint pain, etc.
As hormone levels continue to decrease, some women may appear.Long term complicationsFor example, cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases caused by decreased hormone levels, osteoporosis caused by bone loss, and even some women will induce Alzheimer’s disease when they get older.
If women want to go through menopause smoothly and reduce the occurrence of mid-and long-term complications, they need to take comprehensive measures.
First of all,We should have a correct understanding of menopause. Menopause is not a disease, but a normal physiological process. With correct cognition, we can better face various situations.
Secondly,Adjust your lifestyle.. Before the onset of menopause, both diet and work and rest should be adjusted to "healthy mode" to meet this important life node in a better state. After menopause comes, we should still adhere to a healthy diet, work and rest, and regular exercise to ensure the normal body function.
Finally,Rational view of hormone therapy. If women have severe menopausal symptoms, they can take hormone supplements appropriately. Don’t be afraid of hormone therapy, but you can’t rely too much on it. You should supplement it according to the actual situation of your body and under the guidance of a doctor.
Only by treating menopause with a rational attitude, treating menopause with a healthy lifestyle and coping with menopause with practical treatment methods can women successfully pass this stage. As children,We should also care more for our mothers.Understand the life changes they are experiencing.
# Plan Zero Zero #
References:
[1] Women have these symptoms, which may be menopause [N]. First People’s Hospital of Yunnan Province, October 30, 2018
[2] How many Chinese mothers have been hurt by the stigma of menopause [N]. New Weekly, February 23, 2021
[3] How to accompany and care for your mother when you encounter the annoying "menopause"? [N]. Published by Shanghai, May 9, 2021
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