

The lanterns in the streets and alleys are booming, and the dumplings that have just been cooked are steaming, and the atmosphere of the Lantern Festival in the Year of the Tiger is getting stronger and stronger. This year, when the Lantern Festival meets the Winter Olympics, it shows more joy and vitality than before.
Traditional glutinous rice balls sell well.
Lantern Festival is celebrated on the fifteenth day of the first month. As a necessary food for festivals, Lantern Festival naturally becomes the "protagonist" on people’s table.
In recent days, in Beijing Jinfang Ciqikou Snack Shop, the masters in charge of making Yuanxiao are busy from early morning to late night every day. "The store site is expected to shake 10,000 kilograms, plus the gift-packed Yuanxiao shipped from other stores, and it will sell more than 20,000 kilograms a day." Manager Qiu Yunhe said.
In Guishunzhai, a time-honored brand in Tianjin, customers who came to buy Yuanxiao lined up in a long queue. "The assorted dumplings I bought are the same as the blind box. It’s fun to catch up with whatever stuffing you eat." A young consumer said, "Gui Shunzhai has 12 kinds of classic Yuanxiao flavors, which are handmade by the master, and the old people at home love this flavor."
"Rolling" Yuanxiao in the north and "wrapping" glutinous rice balls in the south all represent reunion and happiness and family reunion. In the Ningbo Tangtuan Store near the Jiuqu Bridge in Shanghai Yuyuan Garden, many citizens and tourists ate hot freshly cooked dumplings, and there was a long queue at the take-out place at the door of the store to buy raw dumplings. "Please help me get four boxes of black foreign cakes and four boxes of crab powder soup balls." On February 9th, Wang Laobo, a citizen of Shanghai, went to the Yuyuan Garden with his wife to see the lanterns, and bought some handmade dumplings to take home.
Black sesame, peanut, fruit, taro … … Yuanxiao with various fillings not only satisfies the taste buds, but also conveys the joy and reunion warmth of traditional Chinese festivals.
Lantern reflects the full moon.
Lantern Festival is also called Shangyuan Festival and Lantern Festival. Just like "thousands of trees bloom in the east wind night." It is written that there is a full moon in the sky, and lanterns are everywhere in the world. Watching lanterns has become a traditional folk custom of the Lantern Festival.
In the Datang Furong Garden in Xi ‘an, Shaanxi Province, groups of lanterns such as "Fu Hu You Chun", "Dragon and Phoenix Cheng Xiang" and "Drum Music for a Thousand Years" are brightly lit and colorful, attracting tourists and citizens to watch. It is reported that there are 37 groups of lanterns in Xi ‘an Datang Furong Garden, Datang City that Never Sleeps, Xi ‘an City Wall, Daming Palace National Heritage Park and Yi Sushe Cultural District. All kinds of lanterns light up this ancient city, allowing visitors to experience the annual taste and beauty of "the lights of Shangyuan are all over the sky".
Dance Shuanglong, Dance Double Lions, Walk on stilts, Nanchang Qingyin, Huangmei Opera and Tea Picking Opera … … In Tengwangge Scenic Spot in Nanchang, Jiangxi Province, there is a festive atmosphere in the Spring Festival Lantern Festival, which is very lively. In addition to viewing lanterns, visitors can also enjoy a variety of folk performing arts activities.
Solve riddles on the lanterns is also a traditional event of the Lantern Festival. In Wuhan, Hubei Province, there is a lantern riddle in the West Square of Yellow Crane Tower Park, and visitors can get corresponding gifts after guessing correctly. In Chongqing, the Lantern Festival will be held in Meixin Red Wine Town, Fuling. Citizens and tourists can take part in folk activities such as solve riddles on the lanterns, setting off the river lanterns, and taking photos at the lantern punching points such as "Two Towers Reflecting the Moon", "Tiger Lantern" and "Fish Every Year".
In Guangzhou, Guangdong, the night light show illuminates the city, making tourists shout, "What a shock!" "Proper international norms and modernity" … … At the same time, the arrival of the Lantern Festival also indicates the opening of the local spring outing market. Peach blossoms, plum blossoms and camellias are in full bloom one after another, and enjoying flowers in spring outing has also become a way for citizens to celebrate the Lantern Festival.
Winter Olympics elements are bright.
On February 13th, a special activity of "Celebrating the Lantern Festival and Drawing Winter Olympics" was held in Dongao Community, Gaojing Road, Shijingshan District, Beijing. Members of the Winter Olympics volunteer family hand-made exquisite craft lanterns, and members of the painting and calligraphy class carefully drew paintings and calligraphy works such as plum, orchid, bamboo and chrysanthemum on them. Lantern is one of the typical elements of China traditional culture, a symbol of happiness and auspiciousness, and also the prototype of the mascot of Beijing 2022 Paralympic Winter Games, "Snow Rongrong". Everyone also wants to express their wishes for the Beijing Winter Olympics.
The splendid Winter Olympics and the joyful Lantern Festival "bump into each other", interweaving the unique charm of the 2022 Spring Festival. Many netizens said that this year’s Lantern Festival will watch the Winter Olympics at home and cheer for the Olympic athletes!
Celebrations around the world are also combined with the Winter Olympics, and there are many ideas. For example, the "Park Classroom" in Hongshan Square, Wuhan, Hubei Province will hold a special activity to lead children to personally make the ultra-light clay version of "Ice Pier" and "Snow Rongrong". In Dongyue Community, Tai ‘an, Shandong Province, children make "orange piers" with oranges to celebrate the Winter Olympics. In Guangyuan Road Community, Shijiazhuang, Hebei Province, people create riddles based on the Winter Olympics and Olympic champions, so that more people can understand the story of Winter Olympics.
According to Xinhua News Agency, Canberra (Reporter Zhang Jianhua), some people joked that "love is blind". Australian researchers try to find out by scientific means. Their research found that when a person falls in love, the related brain reactions will make people put the lover at the center of their lives.
Researchers from Australian National University and other institutions recently published a paper in the journal Behavioral Science, exploring the connection between the behavioral activation system of human brain and romantic love.
The researchers surveyed 1,556 young people who were in love. The survey questions mainly focused on their emotional reactions to their partners and related behaviors, as well as their attention to their lovers. It turns out that when a person is in love, his brain will make an unusual reaction and put the lover at the center of life.
Researchers say that researchers know the role of oxytocin in love, that is, when someone communicates with their lover, oxytocin circulates in their nervous system and blood. Oxytocin, known as "love hormone", is a neurohormone secreted by hypothalamus, which can be secreted by both men and women.
The researchers further explained that the reason why lovers become particularly important is because of the combination of oxytocin and dopamine. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter secreted by the brain, which is responsible for transmitting feelings of excitement and happiness. Therefore, it can be said that love activates the pathways related to positive emotions in the brain.
In 1982, herdsman was born, and the "Lao Xu" in the play was blown to a classic with one click.
The golden sentence "bread will be there, everything will be there" made it even more eye-catching and was dumped into a national treasure film with a score of 9.1.
This sentence was originally the spiritual food of the Soviet Union, and then it showed infinite hope in the lines in herdsman. It can be said that in the era of poverty, the appearance of herdsman is like a good medicine.
Then the film "herdsman" burst into flames, and Zhu Shimao, who was at the peak of Yan value, was also held into the altar, and the fire was a mess.
The phrase "Old Xu wants a wife but not a wife" in the play shows us the simplicity of marriage in the era of scarcity. A quilt, a shabby house, a pair of couples can help each other
The simplest action of the two is to share porridge, and we can also spy out from it that they are poor in material things but rich in spirit.
Xiuzhi’s sentence "I gave him my heart" also made us realize the quality of Lao Xu.
Lao Xu doesn’t like kimchi, but his Xiuzhi does. Gradually, kimchi became his habit. This is a simple and pure love that loves me, loves my dog.
It can be said that the old Xu in the play is full of a loyal mood; But the old Xu "Zhu Shimao" outside the play is contaminated with women and her private life is messy.
From kissing to kissing, there is nowhere to hide under the camera. Staging a cheating drama ruined the classic Xu Lingjun in the eyes of the public.
An old artist, who enjoys a good reputation in the secular world, has become an old play bone that has been "poked" in the spine, and has even been revealed as "disrespecting the old".
From ten thousand people to ten thousand people, 69-year-old Zhu Shimao was ridiculed by the crowd. How far can he go? Why is it so far!
Did Zhu Shimao wander in his later years?
Time is a "book-tearing man", and even Zhu Shimao’s "clues" are exposed.
Zhu Shimao is a tortured but talented old Xu of herdsman, and was once a good husband who was surrounded by a peach scandal but was tolerated by the public.
When The Shepherd was the most popular, Zhu Shimao was able to keep a "decent" for his wife. Many fans’ ambiguous letters are not enough to shake Zhu Shimao.
At that time, Zhu Shimao responded like this:
They like Xu Lingjun rather than me. Besides, I am married.
Such a man who puts his wife on the table is always so courageous.
But Zhu Shimao, who was in his middle and old age, fell in love with early adopters and cheated.
At the launch conference of a film, Zhu Shimao wantonly kissed an actress on the table, but it was called "interaction". Why not be ironic?
But the moment when Zhu Shimao’s label of "good man" was completely torn was two ambiguous kisses with the actress in the car.
But Zhu Shimao’s response was "out of courtesy".
But what courtesy is enough for a married person to kiss another woman goodbye late at night?
After being pushed to public opinion again and again, Zhu Shimao finally stopped.
After Zhu Shimao was exposed to a series of cheating incidents, many people wondered whether Zhu Shimao had divorced his wife.
According to the public information, Fan Xuxia is still his wife, and the word "before" has not been added.
Perhaps Zhu Shimao pulled back from the brink and decided to return to the family. But it seems that Zhu Shimao is more like a "dragon’s eye" than the old play bone that cheated on the bed.
I have to say that the entertainment circle is really a dye vat. You know, Zhu Shimao used to be such a good man. But in my later years, I couldn’t help it? It is really embarrassing.
How did Zhu Shimao treat his wife, and why? Perhaps we have to find the answer from Zhu Shimao’s famous history and even his marriage with Fan Xuxia.
History of fame and love
Before meeting Fan Xuxia, Zhu Shimao’s life was "barren and hard". There are many resonance points with Xu Lingjun in the film herdsman, from family to marriage.
There are more than a dozen children in the family who need to support, and Zhu Shimao is the sixth in the family. For this poor family, it is natural to help.
The saddest time in the family was the death of Zhu Shimao’s father when he was twelve years old, and the burden of the family completely fell on his mother’s shoulders.
Zhu Shimao often helps his mother do some trivial housework, but this behavior can’t alleviate the financial problems at home. Zhu Shimao, who had no knowledge to support, went to serve as a soldier.
But fortunately, in the end, fate swept him. After Zhu Shimao entered the army, he was promoted to a cadre all the way.
The heavy eyebrows and even the handsome appearance have become a stepping stone, and they have "smashed" all the way to the drama troupe.
It took five years to sharpen a sword, but "Children of Xisha" filmed by Zhu Shimao was "stillborn" due to external reasons.
But tribulation is not enough to knock down Zhu Shimao. Then another film, herdsman, made Zhu Shimao leave the film world completely.
It can be said that it is a legend created by Zhu Shimao to move from a poor child to the film and television industry.
But the weakness of human nature lies in:
When a poor man becomes rich, the first thing to do is to throw away the "crutches" that once supported him.
Zhu Shimao is no exception. At first, he still had a little conscience. But later, Zhu Shimao, under the "baptism" of money, was infected with the common fault of many drama bones in the entertainment circle-cheating.
But judging from Zhu Shimao’s love history, it is not obvious at first that Zhu Shimao will turn to a slut and ignore his wife and children at home.
Zhu Shimao met Fan Xuxia when he first entered the army. One is green, the other is shy, and the pure love in those days is well portrayed in them.
Zhu Shimao carried the baggage to the dormitory for Fan Xuxia, while Fan Xuxia stuffed the steamed bread in the handkerchief into his hand.
A steamed bread becomes a marriage, and the two of them are naturally together.
But at that time, it could only be "underground love." The rule in the regiment is that cadres can’t be ambiguous with soldiers.
Two people through stacks of Fang Gezi stationery, to maintain this relationship.
But then the two of them have to face a crew and a group.
Especially during the filming and release of herdsman, Fan Xuxia was jealous and even more sour.
The public moved Xu Lingjun’s obscure feelings in the play to Zhu Shimao. He and his partner Cong Shan were promoted to the title of "husband and wife".
Fan Xuxia, who is beside me, is only a girlfriend. How can she not be sour?
Any woman can’t stand it. And Zhu Shimao, also noticed his girlfriend Fan Xuxia’s mood.
Then Zhu Shimao married the first lover Fan Xuxia, who had shared weal and woe. At one time, he left the film and television industry and went to the field of comedy sketches.
At that time, it was a new thing that was different from the sketch and the film. It can be said that Zhu Shimao’s experiment was successful.
At that time, Zhu Shimao’s career was no longer dying, and her marriage with Fan Xuxia was on the right track. But daily necessities are not maintained by love alone, and they are far more complicated than love.
After Fan Xuxia’s marriage, the word "sweet" remained with Zhu Shimao at first. But as soon as his son Qingyang Zhu was born, Zhu Shimao went to study abroad alone.
Once you leave, it will be three years. When I came back again, what was left with Fan Xuxia was a pile of contradictions.
After the separation, the reunion is the alienation of the two, and it is not the "hidden pain" of the life of middle-aged couples.
In the family, everyone has to pay a heavy burden. Then, Zhu Shimao devoted himself to his career, but Fan Xuxia focused entirely on his children.
They share the same bed, but their mood has already drifted elsewhere. But Zhu Shimao gradually alienated his wife and children, and Fan Xuxia could only bear it, choosing to be a secular wife, caring for her husband and educating her children, and taking care of everything in life.
But it is the son’s education that makes them fall apart completely.
Zhu Shimao advocates liberal education, but Fan Xuxia is more concerned about a child’s educational foundation. So the child was sent out of the country, and Fan Xuxia followed.
Fan Xuxia, but have no choice. On the one hand, the important task of family education, but on the other hand, is wrapped in marriage, but also to be a good wife.
However, Zhu Shimao’s separation from him for three years inevitably made Fan Xuxia disappointed with his marriage again and again. So she chose to be a good mother and then a good wife.
It will be fourteen years since Fan Xuxia left. The two separated in different places for fourteen years.
The sweetness of the past, the common troubles of the past, all seem to be falling apart. During this period, Zhu Shimao visited his wife and children, but it was two or three times a year.
Zhu Shimao didn’t give up, and he was once begged by his son to stay by pulling his trousers. But the domestic notice and the cost of breaking the contract made him only inclined to leave.
It can be said that the date of marriage with Fan Xuxia was not the fault of Zhu Shimao alone. In emotional life, everyone needs to be wrapped up by some outside world.
The two of them, to some extent, also have a tacit understanding. One is running the family, the other is fighting for the cause. This model is true, but it lacks the necessary communication.
If Zhu Shimao can tilt the scales to the family once by accident, perhaps he and Fan Xuxia will not go to the tragedy of being ignored by each other.
When the emotional needs in marriage are not properly met, men will inevitably look for blurting out. So Zhu Shimao, became a member of the cheating.
On the one hand, he can’t get rid of his usual love with his wife, but when his career is in full swing, Zhu Shimao forgets his wife who is in trouble, and instead leaves his love to the intervener.
But the tragedy of their marriage has caused. It seems that cheating is also the inevitable trend of Zhu Shimao.
In his later years, Zhu Shimao didn’t know the disadvantages of this marriage.
From his son Qingyang Zhu’s wedding banquet to his children’s first birthday banquet, Zhu Shimao always exhorted his son to put marriage first, and then his career.
I didn’t mean to wet my shoes, so I don’t want my son Qingyang Zhu to go astray again and let the marriage become a pure "grave".
In those days, Zhu Shimao’s peach affair was not aboveboard. The moment of kissing was revealed by the camera, but Zhu Shimao openly disclosed the media’s public opinion:
It is a kind of slander against old artists.
Zhu Shimao’s judgment as an "old artist" seems to the outside world like a shattered glass addicted to cheating.
Zhu Shimao’s right or wrong?
From a poor boy to a skeleton, Zhu Shimao won a career and a good wife.
Looking back on this road, Zhu Shimao has long been divorced from "Old Xu" in herdsman. He no longer exists warmth, but also goes to the opposite.
From a faithful husband to a cheating man. Zhu Shimao got the pouring and expansion of desire and lost his marriage.
Fame and profit are nothing but empty shells. But Zhu Shimao didn’t see through this, and became a "worshipper" of the flesh again and again.
But this is complicated and secular, and how many people can get out of the mud without being stained? Men in the world live up to their expectations, but Zhu Shimao is just a typical example.
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Text | Cosmetics News Zou Xinchen
Gucci (Gucci), Prada (Prada), Hermes (Hermes), Burberry (Burberry) … These luxury brands are well-known in the fashion world. In recent years, they have stepped into the beauty industry "cross-border" one after another, which was once regarded as a "dimensionality reduction blow" by KOL and fans. Recently, however, the slow growth of Gucci Beauty seems to be a microcosm of the dilemma of these luxury fashion brands in the beauty market: it is not as easy as imagined that "blue blood" aristocratic luxury brands make beauty across borders.
"Everyone wants to know what’s next for Gucci Beauty." Joan Kennedy, a columnist of Business of Fashion, said in her report.
In 2019, Coty Group relaunched this beauty brand. At that time, the creative director of Gucci was Alessandro Michele, who brought his minimalist and emotional style into all aspects of the brand, and the beauty business was also affected by it. Gucci Beauty’s product packaging is characterized by bright flowers and retro style, and it is featured by punk musicians such as Dani Miller. It is eccentric and exaggerated, which is very in line with Michelle’s aesthetics. "But in terms of product content, it is no different from other brands of eye shadow discs and lipsticks." Joan said.
At first, Michelle’s novel concept caused a shock in the fashion and beauty industries, and the sales of Gucci Beauty products soared. However, with the novelty brought by Michelle’s aesthetics gradually disappearing, consumers’ "aesthetic fatigue" on Gucci has become more and more obvious. During 2020-2021, Gucci’s sales continued to decline. In November 2022, Michelle left her job, and before the new creative director took office, the men’s show in January designed by the former was greatly reduced in scale, and the same reduction also appeared in beauty. Gucci Beauty declined to comment on it.
The dilemma of Gucci Beauty has sparked a heated discussion in the industry about how luxury fashion brands should carry out their beauty business. Historically, it has always been a challenge to combine fashion and beauty makeup, which run on different time axes and serve different customers. For the beauty product line of fashion brands, it may be an effective strategy to "completely accept" the aesthetics of creative directors, but relying too much on the aesthetics of creative directors will also bring risks, especially after luxury brands have developed the habit of rapidly rotating creative directors.
In recent years, the term of the creative director of luxury brands has become shorter and shorter. For example, Ann Demeulemeester, Bottega Veneta and Burberry all "sent away" their former creative directors in less than five years. "If the beauty business is consistent with the overall aesthetic style of the brand, replacing the creative director will inevitably lead to the redesign of the packaging of beauty products, which requires high operation of the operation department and will affect the overall profitability." Tony Wang, founder of brand strategy consulting firm Office of Applied Strategy, said in an interview with BOF.
"For example, in Gucci, it seemed reasonable at that time to let Michelle have more say in beauty, but with the change of brand creative director, Gucci Beauty also followed the overall style of’ Ben Jia’ and chose to take traditional aesthetics as the design center, which caused its brand image to be separated from the previous Michelle period." Tony Wang said, "This image transition is not only slow, but also very expensive."
"Because clothing is seasonal, the cost of redesigning fashion is lower, and consumers will soon forget the style of last season. But in terms of beauty, once you produce a large amount of inventory, it is not easy to change the product packaging. " Tony Wang added.
Traditionally, luxury fashion brands sell their beauty products to giants such as L ‘Oreal, Estee Lauder and Coty, who are responsible for the specific development, marketing and distribution of products under the guidance of brand creative directors.
"On the bright side, these authorized beauty product lines can enhance the brand image in disguise. Smaller fashion brands like Ba Erman or Magira can expand their beauty product lines without investing their own funds through authorized cooperation with L ‘Oré al Group. " Mario Ortelli, managing partner of Ortelli & Co., a luxury goods acquisition company, said. "However, in a negative sense, this kind of" two-management "behavior will also split luxury brands, resulting in a lack of cohesion in the brand as a whole, thus weakening the brand image."
"Of course, the licensee naturally wants to renew the contract with the brand, but their top priority is to make as much money as possible during the contract period, rather than maintaining the overall tonality and brand image of luxury brands." Ortelli said, "But for luxury brands, the latter is the most important."
When the beauty products authorized by large groups deviate from the style of the creative director of luxury brands, the results will also confuse consumers. For example, in 2018, Coty Group launched a publicity campaign for Burberry’s "She" perfume, adopting the style of Christopher Bailey, the former creative director of Burberry. However, not long after, Riccardo Tisci, the brand’s new creative director, released the brand concept centered on street clothes and adopted a more modern new logo and letter pattern, and the publicity campaign was dropped.
Similarly, Valentino Beauty, which was launched in 2021, uses big red as the product packaging. Although this hue will remind consumers of the brand image of Valentino in the last century, it has nothing to do with the electro-optical pink recently promoted by Pierpaolo Piccioli, the brand creative director.
"This’ deviation’ means that those’ new’ consumers who are attracted by beauty products lack a clear understanding of the style of luxury brands themselves." Ariel Ohana, managing partner of investment bank Ohana & Co., said, "This chronic’ brand image erosion’ is hard to find, especially if luxury brands cooperate with licensees for a long time."
"The story and overall image created by a brand are the most important assets of luxury brands." Tony Wang also agreed with Ohana that "the brand image found by luxury consumers in the beauty products they buy should be consistent with the brand as a whole, otherwise, it will damage the brand’s long-standing historical reputation."
Ohana added: "If this will damage the overall image and reputation of the brand, even if the brand has performance growth in the next few decades, one day, the brand will pay for it."
Luxury brands such as Chanel and Dior choose to firmly control the beauty products business in their own hands. This internal operation mode gives brands more control-not to mention higher profit margins. Audrey Depraeter-Montacel, managing director and head of beauty business of Accenture, said, "Many mysteries surrounding the production of beauty products have been solved, and it is easier to launch beauty products now than it was ten years ago. However, this still requires the brand to take out a lot of time and money; In addition to investing in products, marketing and distribution capabilities, operating the beauty business internally requires luxury brands to change their way of thinking and require more interaction between R&D departments and commercial operations departments. "
"A luxury brand like Dior, which has more budget and higher popularity, has stronger independence in its beauty business." Audrey added, "The perfume of this brand has its own uniqueness, but it has little to do with the fashion of the brand. For example, Sauvage perfume endorsed by Johnny depp in 2015 can’t reflect the brand creative director Kim Jones’ understanding of the brand’s men’s wear style. If you ask anyone on the street, they may not know that Sauvage is Dior’s perfume, but it is still the most popular perfume in Dior’s history and a huge driving force for brand performance. "
But even if it is independent like Dior, it still dares not completely separate the brand image from the beauty business. Today, its new design logo is appearing in its cosmetics and perfume products, and the design of its creative director Maria Grazia Chiuri is also appearing in some advertisements of beauty products, such as Grisdiol perfume.
"I think it is necessary to try. Beauty cosmetics can be used as a channel to understand the response of luxury brands to fashion elements, or to attract new audiences, such as Generation Z consumers." Thomas Zeldari, a professor of luxury marketing at new york University, said. "With the increasingly fierce competition in the beauty market, luxury brands now have to compete not only with savvy rising stars, but also with each other. How to strike a balance between fashion style and beauty products is a problem that all major luxury brands need to consider in the future. "
In clinical psychological counseling, couples or couples often encounter the problem of separation. The more you consult these questions, the more you can find that there is a natural conflict between love and distance. If we don’t handle it carefully, the probability of love losing to distance is still quite large. Therefore, whether it is a couple in love or an old couple who have been married for many years, it is a problem that we need to face up to and pay attention to.
The following analysis and suggestions can also provide reference for the situation that the family cannot be taken care of for some reasons.
Whether it’s a couple in love or an old couple who have been married for many years, being away from home is a problem that we need to face up to and pay attention to; Image from the network)
Why distance
Have such a great influence on love?
Speaking of this question, I have to talk about three essential elements of perfect love: intimacy, passion and commitment. The three elements of love were put forward by Robert Robert Jeffrey Sternberg, a professor of psychology at Yale University. He pointed out that different stages and types of love can be interpreted as different combinations of these three elements. For example, with the development of two people’s romantic relationship, the focus of each component will change. For example, there will be more passion at first, but gradually, commitment will become more important. Robert Jeffrey Sternberg also found that the duration of a relationship based on a single factor is not as long as that based on two or three factors.
Three elements of love: intimacy, passion and commitment; The size of the triangle indicates the degree of admiration, and the larger the triangle, the higher the degree of admiration; Each horn represents a unique type of love; Different combinations form seven different types of love; Image from the network)
Usually, the intimate relationship with the longest persistence and the highest satisfaction is obtained by the efforts of both partners to maintain intimacy and enhance their sense of responsibility.
In a long-distance relationship, intimacy is easily affected. Sometimes what can be solved by a hug leads to misunderstandings and the accumulation of negative emotions because of the obstacles of emotional expression.
Coupled with the cumulative effect of different living environments and different social circles, over time, it is likely that two people will have less and less common language and it will become more and more difficult to understand each other.
What is even more frightening is that it will wear away trust. There are many uncertain factors for two people who live in different places for a long time, such as a message or phone call that can’t be answered in time, a photo taken with other members of the opposite sex, a lie that hides their whereabouts, and so on, which may lead to the collapse of trust.
Therefore, the lack of intimacy is the key reason why many long-distance relationships lose to distance and time.
Lack of intimacy is the key reason why many long-distance relationships lose to distance and time; Image from the network)
How to overcome the troubles in different places?
Then how can we overcome the unfavorable factors brought by different places and maintain a harmonious and long-lasting relationship? We suggest that couples or couples who are experiencing the test in different places need to do the following work:
First, learn to communicate deeply and build a building of trust.
The hardest part to deal with in different places is communication. Many people think that communication mainly depends on language, but in actual communication, the influence of language information is very small, accounting for only about 7%, and tone, facial expression and body account for 93%. Therefore, when two people communicate in different places, it is impossible to fully understand each other’s emotional state, even if it is a video, it lacks the participation of touch and smell, and it is impossible to achieve a comprehensive experience. Therefore, it is very important to improve the depth and efficiency of communication.
For communication in different places, we suggest that the big principle is "report every day, learn to share, and don’t have a cold war".
(The principle of communication in different places: report every day, learn to share, and never have a cold war; Image from the network)
Many couples in different places are busy at work, so it may be unrealistic to report from time to time, but it may become a burden to each other. However, it is necessary to give a brief report every day, especially for men. Before going to bed, they should briefly talk about their day’s situation and the next day’s arrangements, voice messages or short calls. With such a habit, mutual trust will be enhanced.
By sharing your own life, you can let each other know about your living environment and dynamics and enhance each other’s sense of security.
But no matter how good two people are, conflicts are inevitable. Quarrel is not terrible, but couples in different places should not use the cold war to deal with conflicts.
Second, strengthen the sense of ceremony, and farewell is better than marriage.
The preservation of two people’s love needs a sense of ceremony, and it is more urgent for both parties in different places to achieve the state of "a little farewell is better than a new marriage" by strengthening the sense of ceremony.
We can strengthen the sense of ritual in getting along from two aspects, one is to make rules, and the other is to create romance.
You can strengthen the sense of ritual in getting along in two ways: making rules and creating romance; Image from the network)
At the beginning of different places, it is necessary to make some rules to ensure the constant love interaction between two people. For example, talk every day, say good night to each other every day, and make regular video calls; Regarding communication, we must speak out if there are contradictions, instead of holding them in our hearts and fighting for the night; Regarding trust, no matter how busy you are, you should explain it in advance and share it briefly, and you must explain the unexpected situation afterwards. These agreements will subconsciously make us cherish our feelings and make the feelings in different places more stable.
In creating romance, many couples, especially girls, need to feel loved, so don’t ignore each other’s needs and set aside time to take care of her emotions and express their feelings. Properly expressing your thoughts and love for each other can make each other feel cared for. You can also often create some surprises for each other, such as writing a few love words to each other and singing a love song to each other. If you travel frequently, when you meet again, you should buy some carefully selected gifts for the other party, such as what the other party mentioned to you, to let the other party know that you are thinking about her at any time, so as to achieve the effect that parting is better than getting married.
Third, create romantic expectations and give full play to the power of commitment.
For a long-distance relationship, commitment is an important driving force for each other to overcome the current difficulties. If there is no expectation for the future, it is difficult for two people to resist the suffering of loneliness and missing. Therefore, when you are in a different place, you must increase the chances of meeting as much as possible, and before each separation, you can start to create the expectation of meeting next time, and try to be specific and look forward to it together. For example, "Let’s meet in a month, and I’ll cook you a big seafood dinner, so that you can taste my loving cooking skills.".
(When you are in a different place, you must increase the chances of meeting as much as possible, and before each separation, you can start to create the expectation of meeting next time, try to be specific and look forward to it together, but don’t break your promise; Image from the network)
Expectation can be divided into short-term goals and long-term goals.
Short-term goals can be aimed at mutual interests, such as traveling together, shopping together, climbing mountains together, watching movies together, etc. You can make a detailed plan, work together and implement it one by one, so that more connections can be built.
Don’t break your promise, if it doesn’t come true, and blame each other, the balance of your emotional savings account will be less and less.
The long-term goal is about the expectations of being together in the future. Couples in love can look forward to the wedding picture together, how romantic the wedding is, how exquisite the home decoration is, and how interesting the future life will be. For example, "When we get married in the future, we must raise a lovely kitten at home and have a particularly lovely child. I will take pictures of you, the kitten and the child, and I will be very happy when I think about it."
For married couples, how to solve the problem of separation between the two places is a very realistic topic. The other party may understand the needs of temporary career development, but if career development is always put above the needs of the other party, the probability of emotional problems is still very high if two people get together for a long time, so it is necessary to take care of how long to solve the problem in different places and how to make up for each other’s feelings, and give a promise to make the other party really feel at ease.
This paper is adapted from Intimate Relationship Management —— How to Deal with Conflicts in Intimate Relationship Rationally.
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Original title: "Better Police Body and Mind | How to Keep Love from Losing to Distance"
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Photo: The Financial Rubik’s Cube was ranked in the "2023 KPMG China Financial Technology Enterprise Double 50 List".
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Photo: Yuan Yulai, founder and CEO of the Financial Rubik’s Cube, participated in the round-table discussion on "Application Trend and Ecological Outlook of the Big Model of Financial Industry" (second from right)
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December 21st, "Hand in hand? ? 2007 "Sino-Indian Army Joint Anti-terrorism Training officially kicked off in a training base in Kunming, China. China News Agency issued Zhang lei photo
The picture shows Chinese and Indian officers and soldiers visiting Chinese equipment. China News Agency issued Zhang lei photo
BEIJING, Dec. 21 (Xinhua)-The Sino-Indian Army’s joint anti-terrorism training, which lasted for several days, started on the 20th and attracted attention from all walks of life. Foreign media reports pointed out that this is the first joint training in the history of the Chinese and Indian armies, which is of far-reaching significance for increasing mutual trust and promoting cooperation between the two countries.
Aiming at increasing mutual trust between the two countries.
The BBC reported on the 20th that the armies of China and India held a nine-day joint anti-terrorism training for the first time, aiming at increasing mutual trust between the two countries.
The code name of this joint anti-terrorism training is "Hand in Hand -2007". The two sides have about 100 troops each, and will send a military observation group to observe together.
Qin Gang, spokesman of Indian Foreign Ministry, said at the press conference that the purpose of this joint anti-terrorism training is to enhance mutual understanding and trust between China and China, especially between the two armies, and to enhance cooperation in non-traditional security fields such as anti-terrorism. He also stressed that China and India, as important neighbors and the two largest developing countries, have reached consensus on some international issues, and Sino-Indian cooperation and Sino-Indian consensus are the mainstream.
A spokesman for India’s Ministry of Defence said earlier that the two countries plan to hold the second drill in India in 2008.
The report also said that since the 1990s, the relationship between China and India has gradually improved, and the trade between the two countries has continued to develop in recent years.
Promoting cooperation has far-reaching significance.
Singapore’s Straits Times reported on the 21st that analysts believe that the significance of the joint anti-terrorism training between China and India is not the scale, but the potential cooperative relationship between the two countries is symbolic for the two giants in Asia to cooperate in fighting terrorism.
Singh, retired Brigadier General of the Indian Air Force and director of the Center for Strategic and International Studies, an important think tank in India, said that this exercise is very important because it can reassure both sides.
The report also quoted Sun Shihai, a researcher at China Academy of Social Sciences, as saying that this joint training will help strengthen mutual trust between the two countries, especially between the armed forces.
Exchanges between the two countries are strengthening.
South Korea’s Chosun Ilbo reported on the 20th that the China and Indian armies began joint military training on the 20th. Although the two countries conducted a joint rescue exercise at sea in the East China Sea of China in 2003, they had never conducted joint land training before.
The report believes that this joint anti-terrorism training is the result of the two sides reaching a consensus on cutting off the possibility of recurring border disputes such as armed conflicts and making every effort to move toward economic development.
Indian Defense Ministry spokesman Carl said: "This joint training will be an activity of great significance for enhancing relations between the two countries. There will be a joint military exercise between the two countries in India next year. "
China president Hu Jintao visited India in November last year, which was the first visit by a China head of state in 10 years. Indian Prime Minister Manmohan Singh also decided to pay a return visit to China next year, and the exchanges between China and India are strengthening.
Editor: Li Xingchi